Implementing BDSM Into A Relationship

Implementing BDSM Into A Relationship

http://dennisnajee.blogspot.com/2008/08/implementing-bdsm-into-relationship.html

You were reading this blog for the last few months and
decided this is something that you are interested in trying. How do you go
about getting involved? What do you do to entice your partner into trying this
also?

To begin, it is important to know what it is attractive
to you. Honest self-appraisal is the first step in your journey. Are you
submissive? Dominant? What limits do you see yourself having? Is this something
that you might want to make as a full-time lifestyle or do you like the idea of
being in a scene? The answers to these questions will help to guide you.

For those in relationships, communication is the key.
Bringing this up to your partner might encounter some resistence. As we
mentioned numerous times, there is a lot of prejudice and misconception out
there. It is likely your significant other harbors many of these same ideas. So
expressing to him or her why you want to do this is important.

The best way is to start slow. It is not suggested that
you go out and replace your entire wardrobe with leather. Nor do you want to
create a dungeon in your home; at lease not initially. Look for ways to
implement BDSM into your daily life. You might want to talk to your partner
about adding a bit of bondage or impact play into your next sexual encounter.
If you want to start outside the bedroom, have the dominant One begin to lay
down some ground rules. Use terms like Sir or Madam in situations where you are
alone. Perhaps you might like to adopt a subservient position by sitting at hid
or her feet while watching television. All of these things create a shift in
power. Turning one’s power over to a Dom is a fundamental step in the BDSM
community.

Education is a powerful tool. Even as you are starting to
do some of these things, continue to read and grow. Check back to this forum or
my alternate one (http://dennisnajee.wordpress.com) each day for new
information. It is often helpful to sign up for forum to interact with others
already living this way of life. There are many free ones available; you just
need to register to be able to post (http://www.anownedlife.com/phpbb3/index.php
for mine). This will allow you to post questions that you might
have. Finally, have fun with it. Resist the temptation to put too
much pressure on yourself. This is a fun way to live. Life is tough
enough on its’ own. There is no need to add to the stress level.
Enjoy yourself.