cannot grok form_for

I'm stumped with form_for(). I've RTFM'd until my eyeballs have bled.
I've looked over examples. I still don't get it, and each thing I try
leads to some other error. If someone can lead me to form_for
enlightenment, I'd be in your debt.

I'm using RESTful, shallow routing: one User :has_many Reports.
A Report has three fields of importance:
-- user_id (its parent)
-- location_id (reference to a Location record)
-- report_type ("graph" or "chart")

I'm trying to write a _report.html.erb partial that does double duty: it
can fill in fields of a new report (report.new_record? => true) as well
as update fields of an existing report (report.new_record? => false).

The _report partial receives two inputs: report is the current report
(either new or extant), and @user is set to the owning user.

The form_for needs present the user with [location_id] and [report_type]
fields (eventually to be replaced by pull_down lists), and needs to
silently fill in the [user_id] field of the report. Then, upon
form.submit(), it needs to 'POST user_reports_path(@user.id)' for new a
report, or 'PUT report_path(report.id)' for updating a report.

But even my basic attempts get an error message, and I'm not sure why:

Okay, some elucidation:

The following works when report.new_record? is true, fails when
report.new_record? is false:

form_for([@user, report])
  ...

because it's trying to call the undefined function 'user_report_path'.
(Of course it's undefined -- I've specified shallow routing!) So
perhaps @Alex's comment of http://www.ruby-forum.com/topic/206593 is
relevant here.

So if I modify my form_for for the new_record vs non-new_record, it
looks like this (yech):

<% form_for((report.new_record?)?([@user, report]):(report)) do |f| %>
  <%= f.submit 'JumpUpAndDown' %>
<% end %>

Aside from looking pretty nasty, the generated HTML is a bit suspicious:
Shouldn't it be a POST method when report.new_record? is true and a PUT
method when report.new_record? is false?

Generated for report.new_record? == true:

<form action="/users/29/reports" class="new_report" id="new_report"
method="post">
<input id="report_submit" name="commit" type="submit"
value="JumpUpAndDown" />
</form>

Generated for report.new_record? == false:

<form action="/reports/79" class="edit_report" id="edit_report_79"
method="post">
<input id="report_submit" name="commit" type="submit"
value="JumpUpAndDown" />
</form>

What am I missing here?

- ff