Relationship Advice - who do I belong to & can I have many?

Mic wrote:

Relationship Advice - who do I belong to & can I have many?

First off, I should point out that 'belong to' is a strong term. In any good relationship, there should certainly be a sense of belonging towards each other, but you shouldn't ever feel that you merely 'belong to' somebody, as if you were their property. Otherwise you'll be dependent on them, and what will happen when they're gone?

With that out of the way, the simple answer is that you belong to your 'significant other', although I admit that that's something of a tautology. Do you have someone locally who responds to 'girlfriend', 'boyfriend', 'wife', or 'husband'? 'Honey'? 'Snookie-pie'? If you do, chances are that you belong to them.

And to get the full benefits of the relationship, you should always make sure the association is set up in the other direction as well.

You should note that in the case of 'wife' and 'husband', a slightly more formal API applies:

As for the question of whether you can have many, the answer is generally no, particularly in the case of the formal API (although, as usual, there are exceptions depending on what environment you're in). Most people just have one.

If you insist on having many, it is possible, and you'll find that each relationship basically works the same as usual. And you can still keep your original 'has one' relationship -- that way, you can refer to one of your many (by default, the earliest one) as a special case.

Just make sure you don't confuse their names.

And you certainly don't want to find all of them in the same place. It's probably best if you keep them within different scopes. Of course, I don't recommend this kind of chicanery. It is likely to be deprecated soon, anyway.

Chris